Horny for the Holidays? 5 Tips

Photo by erin walker on Unsplash

Photo by erin walker on Unsplash

During the holidays, many things can take priority over sex in your relationship: family time, shopping, cooking, traveling, parties. At the same time, cooling weather and darker days can bring on urges stronger than ever. Saturday Night Live hilariously made fun of the experience of getting it on in your childhood bedroom while visiting family for the holidays with “(Do It In My) Twin Bed”. Not everyone will have their sexy time limited to a squeaky twin bed while the parents are out on a pharmacy run but the holidays can present some unique challenges for physical intimacy with your partner.

Here are a few helpful tips to keep your fire alive while you survive the rush of holiday season.

1) Stick together. The most important thing for staying sexually connected is simply staying connected. Set your intentions for the holiday season together. Work as a team. Help each other out. Show gratitude for one another. Put yourselves first. Give each other support in every way possible. Don’t let holiday stress pull you apart. Rather, let it bring you closer.

2) Take time. Whenever possible, plan for some private time together. If you can plan an intimate evening or afternoon delight, fabulous. But you don’t have to pressure yourselves to fit sex into every spare moment. You just want to take some space to be yourselves, check in, and enjoy each other. Even a quick errand run or a few minutes of doing dishes side-by-side can give you a chance to  will make it easier to get into each other’s pants when you get the chance.

3) Flirt. Sometimes a simple wink, pat on the butt, or whisper in the ear can be more sexually exciting than a long candle-lit bubble bath together. Don’t give up when you think you’ll need to wait a while to have sex. Give your partner reminders that, even in the midst of all the holiday distractions, you’re thinking about them and still feel hot for them. Flirtation plus anticipation equals hot times together.

4) Stay open. Even in the midst of the busiest days, opportunities for intimate alone time will inevitably arise. Maybe the kids will have a surprise sleepover at grandma’s. Maybe a work party will die down sooner than expected and allow you an early escape. Maybe the whole family will want to go out to a movie you’ve already seen. If you’ve stayed connected and kept your desire alive, you’ll be able to make the most of the uninterrupted times you end up with.

5) Remember the rebound. Traditions, family time, and wholesome fun make the holiday season a magical time. But it’s a mostly asexual sort of magic which can leave our sexual selves a little left out. Even if you and your love fail to find enough erotic outlets for any length of time over the holiday season, don’t fret. Rest assured that true passion never disappears when ignored, it only grows stronger. So while a little thought and effort might keep your sexual momentum going through the holidays, it’s also alright to let go of your sex life so that it can bounce back later.